The Philadelphia Adventure
by B Elizabeth Serafin from The H Life, 12/09/18
reposted with permission
Brian and I spent a weekend we will never forget in Philadelphia. This wasn’t a vacation. We were invited to participate in a conference. Swifty Foundation organized a discussion group of 14 families. We all are a part of a club that no one should ever have to be a part of. We lost our children to a brain tumor and donated the tumor/tissue to research. Everyone agreed that they donated to find a cure.
It is a desperate plea from the depths of our souls that no other child suffers from brain cancer. We also agree that we never want another parent to go through this tragic loss.
The Swifty Foundation, Children’s Brain Tumor Tissue Consortium, and Dr. Angela Waanders are trying to cover all the bases in what has to be the most difficult situation. We have an incredible need for research to cure this cancer, but this can only happen through tissue donation.
How does a physician best approach a family? During this time when our children are dying, we have a very little attention span. Most of us have not slept in a very long time. Our hearts are broken and the staff that has cared for our children, well, they are broken as well. In order to stop this cycle, donations have to happen.
Yet, the staff is left with a daunting task. They are trusted with approaching families when they feel that they have given and fought harder than they have in their whole lives and yet, are losing their child. How is a family approached when all seems lost? Then to ask the family to give part of the child when the child is gone maybe seems heartless. I would like to say that it is not heartless. Sincerely, it is about giving a future to our children as well as giving a future to other families. It’s NOT AT ALL ABOUT GIVING UP. Our donation is allowing us to continue to fight and defeat this beast.
Brian took the lead here. I was not able to take my focus off the care of Heather. Sincerely, every fiber of my being was pleading before the Lord every healing story, every healing scripture. I am the caregiver and that is all I was willing to do. Heather is His, she is absolutely a child of God. Although I would not let go, I knew that Brian was right. If the only way God would heal her was to take her home, then the body she left behind should be used to make miracles happen for others. We decided to donate her brain and spinal cord. Not just the tumor itself. At that time, we did not understand the significance of that decision, yet it has been 3 years since Heather has gone home and we have learned much. The total brain and spinal cord give more information than the tumor can alone.
We shared our story and listened to the stories of the other families who came. Each family wants to do what we can to help find the cure. At the end of the day, we got to tour the research facility and biorepository. Yes, they actually let us in. These amazing scientists took the time on a Saturday night at 5 pm to give us a tour. Not just any tour, they explained and answered our questions that were pretty intense. I am so very grateful for that.
We got to see live DIPG and ATRT cells in the lab. These are cancer cells. We have seen the enemy. Brian asked, “So do you think you will find the cure?” Answer, “Yes” I swear it was confident as if i asked him if he wanted popcorn. “Yes” We can see that the researchers are as determined as we are. Parents asked questions like, “Are you ok with parents of children who have passed coming to see the cells like this? How does it make you feel?” I am not sure I would have had the ability to ask that question, but the scientist’s response was so very sincere. “This gives me more fight, I can’t talk about it too much, I will lose composure. I want to fight harder.”